Chris and I are officially engaged! He surprised me with a ring that I didn’t think he liked very much at the top of Twin Peaks in San Francisco. (This is my favorite spot in the whole world. I’ve been to most of Europe and some of South America and this is still my favorite spot.)
I am so excited to get into the real thick of wedding planning because I feel like now is when I really get to start doing things.
So far the hardest part of planning is deciding the style I want for the reception. I don’t really think that a country chic is my style so I’m leaning toward something a bit more boho-elegant (if that exists). Planning out ceremony and reception decorations has been one of my biggest stressors.
So here are my tips/thoughts for anyone in a similar position as me:
- Prioritize and set deadlines for yourself. For me, if I set deadlines for milestones then I feel like I get more done. I can plan things in phases and accomplish them one by one as opposed to trying to get everything done at once. There are tons of wedding checklists and timelines on Pinterest so you can find one that fits your needs best.
- Make sure that your wedding party is supportive. As much as family drama tries to creep its way into your special day, it is still YOUR day. I have made decisions regarding my wedding party that ensure that I am surrounded by the most positive vibes possible on a probably very stressful time.
- It’s never too early to start! The way I see it, if you have things planned out early, its easier to make adjustments as needed as opposed to trying to plan everything last minute.
- When you go dress shopping, ask for the stylist’s opinion. They have seen hundreds of body types in twice as many dresses. Make sure that they know what you like but definitely still be open to their opinions. I thought that I wanted something very flowy and long sleeve but I ended up falling in love with something very plain and structured and I looked so much better in it! (Maybe I severely underestimated how short I am in comparison to the models that I saw the dresses on.)
- Involve your mom! I want to add a caveat to this one, involve your mom if you have a good relationship with her and you know that she will help you to stay calm and be a positive force through this process. For me, my mom planned her whole wedding on her own and on a strict budget so she has been the biggest help for me when it comes to what really matters and what are extra stresses that I need to brush off. I have also been blessed with a mom who is the most creative person I have met and who thinks of things that I would never think of.
- If you’re religious, pray! If you’re not religious this may not hold as much meaning for you but for me it has been a huge help to me to pray that I can see the things that I need to do to make sure that this day is special to us and to our families that want to support us. If you are someone who doesn’t find comfort in religion then find someone who can help you to keep a level head throughout the whole planning process.
I am definitely not a professional wedding planner but these are a few things that I have learned along the way so far. Maybe after the wedding I’ll look back and think these were silly but for now I hope its helpful!