Currently we are 79 days away from the wedding! There are still a lot of things to do but I feel like I need to give my mom a huge shoutout. She has taken over much of the planning and is communicating with my fiance’s mom to make sure that everything happens. I was getting pretty bad anxiety attacks so this had really helped to lessen the stress on me right now.
I think I feel like everything is finally starting to come together. The dress, the shoes, the decorations. It feels like maybe this whole day might actually come together. (Did I just jinx myself?)
The only other thing that is stressing me out is planning an open house in California at my parents place. Having parents that live in two separate places is kind of a pain but that means that we get to celebrate with people who are really special to both of us.
So far the biggest thing that I have had to deal with has been letting things go. I have to accept that my dream day is mostly a dream and whatever happens at the end of the day Chris and I will be married and that is the most important part.
If the time changes or if the brides maids dresses aren’t exactly what I want, those things don’t make a difference when it comes down to it. People are here to celebrate us. They aren’t here to celebrate the food or the table decorations.
Let me know what your biggest wedding planning lesson has been!
I think the biggest thing for me in this stage of wedding planning is realizing that its all real. Seeing myself in a wedding dress as a bride makes it so real. It’s such a crazy and exciting thought that I’m going to be a wife and this wedding is just the first step.
Back to my dress, I know that I initially wanted to have my grandma make my dress but the whole story unfolds in a kind of cool way.
I wanted to try on dresses that were the style that I liked so that I would be sure that it would look good on me. (I have all my dress inspo from Pinterest and they are all 5’10 models and I am only 5’3 on a good day.) So we went to a dress place here in Rexburg and I put on a few others that were okay and then I tried on this one and I fell in love. It fits perfectly and doesn’t need any alterations. On top of that it is less than half my budget. I don’t think that my grandma and I could have even made one for that little so I bought it.
I thought I would be a lot more nervous about the whole process but I feel more accomplished. I feel like this is something else that I have conquered. I only have one last big stressor before the wedding and then I feel like everything else will just flow nicely. (I realize that this is a far-fetched fantasy but a girl can dream right?)
So this is my quick update about wedding planning and where I’m at.
(Also I’m only not posting a pic of the dress because Chris follows my blog.)
Chris and I are officially engaged! He surprised me with a ring that I didn’t think he liked very much at the top of Twin Peaks in San Francisco. (This is my favorite spot in the whole world. I’ve been to most of Europe and some of South America and this is still my favorite spot.)
I am so excited to get into the real thick of wedding planning because I feel like now is when I really get to start doing things.
So far the hardest part of planning is deciding the style I want for the reception. I don’t really think that a country chic is my style so I’m leaning toward something a bit more boho-elegant (if that exists). Planning out ceremony and reception decorations has been one of my biggest stressors.
So here are my tips/thoughts for anyone in a similar position as me:
Prioritize and set deadlines for yourself. For me, if I set deadlines for milestones then I feel like I get more done. I can plan things in phases and accomplish them one by one as opposed to trying to get everything done at once. There are tons of wedding checklists and timelines on Pinterest so you can find one that fits your needs best.
Make sure that your wedding party is supportive. As much as family drama tries to creep its way into your special day, it is still YOUR day. I have made decisions regarding my wedding party that ensure that I am surrounded by the most positive vibes possible on a probably very stressful time.
It’s never too early to start! The way I see it, if you have things planned out early, its easier to make adjustments as needed as opposed to trying to plan everything last minute.
When you go dress shopping, ask for the stylist’s opinion. They have seen hundreds of body types in twice as many dresses. Make sure that they know what you like but definitely still be open to their opinions. I thought that I wanted something very flowy and long sleeve but I ended up falling in love with something very plain and structured and I looked so much better in it! (Maybe I severely underestimated how short I am in comparison to the models that I saw the dresses on.)
Involve your mom! I want to add a caveat to this one, involve your mom if you have a good relationship with her and you know that she will help you to stay calm and be a positive force through this process. For me, my mom planned her whole wedding on her own and on a strict budget so she has been the biggest help for me when it comes to what really matters and what are extra stresses that I need to brush off. I have also been blessed with a mom who is the most creative person I have met and who thinks of things that I would never think of.
If you’re religious, pray! If you’re not religious this may not hold as much meaning for you but for me it has been a huge help to me to pray that I can see the things that I need to do to make sure that this day is special to us and to our families that want to support us. If you are someone who doesn’t find comfort in religion then find someone who can help you to keep a level head throughout the whole planning process.
I am definitely not a professional wedding planner but these are a few things that I have learned along the way so far. Maybe after the wedding I’ll look back and think these were silly but for now I hope its helpful!
So this weeks wedding planning is focused on The Dress and The Shoes. (I felt like those needed to be capitalized because of how much they are stressing me out and how much money I am spending on them.)
I plan to wear a very altered version of my mom’s dress. My grandma is a master seamstress so I am hoping that she will be able to alter it to look the way I want it to. If not then that is an issue for future Kate.
I have been scouring Pinterest for wedding dress ideas for months already. If I wanted something strapless or long sleeve with a plunging back I would be in luck but, that’s not quite my style. I want something with opaque long sleeves that is still light and flowy.
I’m not sure if that dress actually exists but a girl can dream right?
The other thing I am struggling with is the shoes. I don’t want to wear heels. Mostly because the ceremony and the reception are on grass so I don’t want to be sinking but I also get really cranky after wearing heels for a while.
I just want to wear Kate Spade X Keds from the bridal collection. My dress will be long enough to cover them so no one will even know. I know they’re not nearly as expensive as most shoes so I really want them but they seem to be really hard to find in store.
That has been this weeks stress and next week Chris and I are going to Bed, Bath & Beyond to work on registry stuff so wish me luck!