Wedding Planning: Some of the Things You Don’t Think About

So we are getting closer and closer to the wedding date but I wanted to write a post about general planning for being married that comes along with the wedding.

The biggest stressor for Chris and I has been finding a place to live. We have found a house that we love and our offer has been accepted! Its close to his work and I absolutely love everything about it. We’ve had some hiccups with the loan but so far we are looking forward.

The struggle with finding a place for the two of you in a place where families are pretty big is that most houses are big and also a bit out of our price range.

We definitely thought about renting and we looked at lots of places but we weren’t finding anything we liked. We decided that if it was possible to buy then we would. It’s a really great investment and we can rent it out later to college kids in the area. We found a great 4 bedroom place (which is more bedrooms than we need but its kind of the best we could do) which is pretty new and its within our price range.

It has a small backyard and a great little kitchen that I can’t wait to move into.

So we bought it. Hopefully I’ll be able to move in before we get married and then Chris can move in with me after we get married. That way I can get everything set up so that when we get back from our honeymoon we can hit the ground running and get back to work and school.

This will also give me a chance to get used to driving to places like the grocery store and find the best routes for us to work before we have to step into actually getting married. (Those seem silly but its the little things that can stress me out.)

There are also a lot of legal things to take care of after you change your last name other than your Instagram handle or your signature. I haven’t done any of this yet so keep your eye out for a post in September about it.

I think the other big thing I didn’t really think about is that getting surprises for Chris is going to be really hard when we share a bank account. He will be able to see how much I spent and where I spent it so I’m not really sure how I’m going to deal with that.

If anyone has any tips on how to best surprise our spouse when you share accounts let me know because surprising Chris is one of my favorite things to do.

Wedding Planning Part 5

Currently we are 79 days away from the wedding! There are still a lot of things to do but I feel like I need to give my mom a huge shoutout. She has taken over much of the planning and is communicating with my fiance’s mom to make sure that everything happens. I was getting pretty bad anxiety attacks so this had really helped to lessen the stress on me right now.

I think I feel like everything is finally starting to come together. The dress, the shoes, the decorations. It feels like maybe this whole day might actually come together. (Did I just jinx myself?)

The only other thing that is stressing me out is planning an open house in California at my parents place. Having parents that live in two separate places is kind of a pain but that means that we get to celebrate with people who are really special to both of us.

So far the biggest thing that I have had to deal with has been letting things go. I have to accept that my dream day is mostly a dream and whatever happens at the end of the day Chris and I will be married and that is the most important part.

If the time changes or if the brides maids dresses aren’t exactly what I want, those things don’t make a difference when it comes down to it. People are here to celebrate us. They aren’t here to celebrate the food or the table decorations.

Let me know what your biggest wedding planning lesson has been!

 

Wedding Planning Part 4

I bought a dress!!!!!!

I think the biggest thing for me in this stage of wedding planning is realizing that its all real. Seeing myself in a wedding dress as a bride makes it so real. It’s such a crazy and exciting thought that I’m going to be a wife and this wedding is just the first step.

Back to my dress, I know that I initially wanted to have my grandma make my dress but the whole story unfolds in a kind of cool way.

I wanted to try on dresses that were the style that I liked so that I would be sure that it would look good on me. (I have all my dress inspo from Pinterest and they are all 5’10 models and I am only 5’3 on a good day.) So we went to a dress place here in Rexburg and I put on a few others that were okay and then I tried on this one and I fell in love. It fits perfectly and doesn’t need any alterations. On top of that it is less than half my budget. I don’t think that my grandma and I could have even made one for that little so I bought it.

I thought I would be a lot more nervous about the whole process but I feel more accomplished. I feel like this is something else that I have conquered. I only have one last big stressor before the wedding and then I feel like everything else will just flow nicely. (I realize that this is a far-fetched fantasy but a girl can dream right?)

So this is my quick update about wedding planning and where I’m at.

(Also I’m only not posting a pic of the dress because Chris follows my blog.)

Wedding Planning Part 3

Chris and I are officially engaged! He surprised me with a ring that I didn’t think he liked very much at the top of Twin Peaks in San Francisco. (This is my favorite spot in the whole world. I’ve been to most of Europe and some of South America and this is still my favorite spot.)

I am so excited to get into the real thick of wedding planning because I feel like now is when I really get to start doing things.

So far the hardest part of planning is deciding the style I want for the reception. I don’t really think that a country chic is my style so I’m leaning toward something a bit more boho-elegant (if that exists). Planning out ceremony and reception decorations has been one of my biggest stressors.

So here are my tips/thoughts for anyone in a similar position as me:

  1. Prioritize and set deadlines for yourself. For me, if I set deadlines for milestones then I feel like I get more done. I can plan things in phases and accomplish them one by one as opposed to trying to get everything done at once. There are tons of wedding checklists and timelines on Pinterest so you can find one that fits your needs best.
  2. Make sure that your wedding party is supportive. As much as family drama tries to creep its way into your special day, it is still YOUR day. I have made decisions regarding my wedding party that ensure that I am surrounded by the most positive vibes possible on a probably very stressful time.
  3. It’s never too early to start! The way I see it, if you have things planned out early, its easier to make adjustments as needed as opposed to trying to plan everything last minute.
  4. When you go dress shopping, ask for the stylist’s opinion. They have seen hundreds of body types in twice as many dresses. Make sure that they know what you like but definitely still be open to their opinions. I thought that I wanted something very flowy and long sleeve but I ended up falling in love with something very plain and structured and I looked so much better in it! (Maybe I severely underestimated how short I am in comparison to the models that I saw the dresses on.)
  5. Involve your mom! I want to add a caveat to this one, involve your mom if you have a good relationship with her and you know that she will help you to stay calm and be a positive force through this process. For me, my mom planned her whole wedding on her own and on a strict budget so she has been the biggest help for me when it comes to what really matters and what are extra stresses that I need to brush off. I have also been blessed with a mom who is the most creative person I have met and who thinks of things that I would never think of.
  6. If you’re religious, pray! If you’re not religious this may not hold as much meaning for you but for me it has been a huge help to me to pray that I can see the things that I need to do to make sure that this day is special to us and to our families that want to support us. If you are someone who doesn’t find comfort in religion then find someone who can help you to keep a level head throughout the whole planning process.

I am definitely not a professional wedding planner but these are a few things that I have learned along the way so far. Maybe after the wedding I’ll look back and think these were silly but for now I hope its helpful!

Wedding Planning part 2

So this weeks wedding planning is focused on The Dress and The Shoes. (I felt like those needed to be capitalized because of how much they are stressing me out and how much money I am spending on them.)

I plan to wear a very altered version of my mom’s dress. My grandma is a master seamstress so I am hoping that she will be able to alter it to look the way I want it to. If not then that is an issue for future Kate.

I have been scouring Pinterest for wedding dress ideas for months already. If I wanted something strapless or long sleeve with a plunging back I would be in luck but, that’s not quite my style. I want something with opaque long sleeves that is still light and flowy.

I’m not sure if that dress actually exists but a girl can dream right?

The other thing I am struggling with is the shoes. I don’t want to wear heels. Mostly because the ceremony and the reception are on grass so I don’t want to be sinking but I also get really cranky after wearing heels for a while.

I just want to wear Kate Spade X Keds from the bridal collection. My dress will be long enough to cover them so no one will even know. I know they’re not nearly as expensive as most shoes so I really want them but they seem to be really hard to find in store.

That has been this weeks stress and next week Chris and I are going to Bed, Bath & Beyond to work on registry stuff so wish me luck!

 

Wedding Planning: Part 1

Planning a wedding is stressful. No News there. 6 months to put together the happiest day of my life. (While trying to also remain happy during said 6 months.)

The flowers, the dress, the location, the ceremony, the guests. I could go on forever but, you get the point.

So this is me documenting it. There are plenty of people probably doing the same thing but here is my journey.

So at this point Chris and I aren’t actually engaged yet. Like we have agreed that we are going to get married and we have a tentative date, my ring finger is just still vacant. (Early on in the relationship I told him exactly where I wanted to be proposed to at and we aren’t going there until spring break.)

However here are the things that we have figured out:

  1. Colors- Maroon and Charcoal grey

2. Reception Venue- His parents backyard

3. Registry- Okay so this one isn’t done but we have a solid start on it so…

4. Date – Nothing is actually set in stone and I don’t want to spoil it

5. Temple we want to get married in- Meridian, Idaho

6. The ring

Maybe some of these things will change but for now it is nice to feel like I’m getting some things figured out.

So far it is stressful to say the least, with jobs and school and traveling I am definitely afraid something important will fall through the cracks. I can see why people hire a planner but I am determined to do this the old-fashioned way. My mom and I hashing out details over a table full of ads from magazines and my Pinterest board that I started like 3 years ago.

As far as some of the other bigger details like the dress, photographer, the food, and literally everything else. Here are my current thoughts:

Dress: I want to wear my mom’s dress. My grandma will make it a little less 90’s and also the right size.

Photographer: Both Chris and I have friends that are photographers that would be totally capable and I would trust them with our engagement and wedding photos. My dad is also a really good photographer who I would also trust with them so I guess with three photographers someone is bound to get a picture of both of us smiling at the same time.

Food: This is a problem for future Kate.

So yeah, thats my thoughts for now. I have merely begun to plan my wedding and while it is stressful, it is also exciting to be planning the day that I have been planning for since I was little with my favorite person in the world by my side.

 

(P.S. Chris is helping me I promise, he just knows that I am a high-stress control freak so he just lets me do my thing and steps in exactly when I need him.)